Part 1. Getting Clear About What You Want
Contrary to what you may have been taught about success, it is largely a process that begins and ends in your own mind. While your actions and outer circumstances undoubtedly have an impact on your progress, success is not so much about “what” you do, but HOW you do it. If you begin by changing your thoughts, your actions will be more focused and your results will be in line with what you want. The first step is to figure out what you want to be successful AT. You may think it doesn’t matter which path you choose, that you can be successful at anything. You’re not completely off the mark with that belief. It is possible to become successful at nearly anything you do. In fact, you may know people that seem to have a magic touch – practically everything they do is a roaring success.
• They seem to effortlessly attract amazing opportunities, while you brood jealously from the sidelines.
• They have no trouble making loads of money, while you agonise over paying your basic expenses.
• They have a genuine zest for life, while you feel lost and confused much of the time.
How do they do it? What do they have that you don’t? The answer may surprise you. They know who they are and what they really want! Even though it’s possible to become successful at anything you do – it is MUCH MORE LIKELY that you’ll become successful at something you truly ENJOY.
The successful people in your life have developed a strong relationship with themselves, become very clear about their passion in life, and made the choice to follow them with enthusiasm. They don’t have to force themselves to work on their goals each day. They look forward to it! The results speak for themselves.
These people AUTOMATICALLY attract lucrative opportunities, wealth, and even more passionate endeavours to dive into. It doesn’t seem like work to them because they are having the time of their life!
Take a moment to review your past endeavours right now. What goals have you set in the past, and how did they turn out? Were you successful? Were you working toward something that wasn’t right for you because someone else was achieving success doing the same thing? Did you let your parents or teachers talk you into a certain career because it paid well of offered “job security”? How did it turn out for you?
It’s not About the Money If your job has become a supreme bore and you force yourself to show up for work each day, in no time at all, you realise that the money you are earning isn’t worth it! If you have had this experience, you’ve quickly realised that money is nothing more than the icing on the cake. The true essence of success is doing what you LOVE. Prosperity is a naturally – occurring BENEFIT.
If you want to be successful, take some time to get to know yourself. Figure out what you really feel passionate about. Don’t look only at the activities themselves, but the underlying essence of what they involve. When you understand what you feel passionate about, what you really want, and WHY, you will be heading in the right direction.
Part 2 – Plotting Your Course and Planning Your Strategy
Are you feeling about clearer about what you REALLY want? If not, take a little more time to get clear about your passions. Trust me, it is time well-spent! You can’t get where you want to go if you don’t KNOW where you want to go! Once you have an objective in mind (whether it’s a new career path or a personal goal), you need to figure out the simplest and most effective way to achieve it.
That means creating a solid plan, identifying key action steps, and planning for the unexpected.
STEP 1: Breaking it Down Into Smaller Goals.
Everything we build in life needs a foundation. Whether we’re constructing a physical building or a new attitude, we need a solid base upon which to build.
STEP 2: Identifying Key Action Steps – and Taking Them!
Once you’ve broken down your larger goal into smaller ones, you should see a clear series of actions that you need to take in order to achieve your goal. Most often, these steps already have an obvious order.
For example, if you have no formal training as a singer and you haven’t practised much, you would be wise to work on those aspects of your plan before you try to get your music out to the public or network with people in the music industry. Simply keep things in order and you will steadily and surely move toward the achievement of your goal. However, be sure you are working on the FOCUSED action steps that count. Don’t let yourself be side tracked by procrastination or fear.
STEP 3: Planning for the Unexpected
While you’re identifying your key action steps and forming a plan to tackle them, you may also want to give some thought to obstacles that may pop up – and alternate plans to work through them.
Consider one step of your plan.
Think about the possible complications or obstacles that could arise from taking that step. Then come up with additional steps you can take to overcome those complications. You don’t have to give this stage of planning an excessive amount of thought, but try to come up with a few different options for every stage of your plan. Then if you encounter obstacles, it’s a simple matter of shifting gears and moving on to Plan B without a hitch. That’s important.
Too many goals are easily derailed when obstacles appear and the goal-seeker doesn’t know what to do, so they do nothing. They give up. Don’t let that be you.
Part 3: The Power of Beliefs
You may wonder what beliefs have to do with anything. They’re just thoughts after all, right? Yes, beliefs are indeed thoughts, but they often determine your actions and reactions – and they have the power to hold you back from doing what will make you happy.
If you believe that you don’t deserve to be happy and successful, such belief would cause you to subconsciously sabotage any plans you make. Or it could cause you to not try at all because you believe it would be a waste of your time and energy.
But that’s not the only way beliefs can hold you back.
Imagine that you have a belief that nothing will come easy to you in life, and you will have to work extremely hard to make even a tiny bit of progress. Perhaps a parental figure passed this “gem” on to you, and you simply believe it without asking questions. What might this type of belief do?
First, you may find yourself resisting any opportunities that seem ‘too good to be true’ simply because you don’t believe that good things will happen to you “just like that”. You ight also feel inclined to refuse any offers of help that come to you from other people, even if you really want help.
You might even go so far as to subconsciously CREATE obstacles and difficulties along the way, just to “prove” to yourself that your beliefs are true. The may sound far-fetched, but the mind works in mysterious ways! It’s amazing how easily we can trick ourselves into believing something, and how fiercely we will defend our beliefs when they are challenged – even by ourselves.
Think back to challenges you have face in your lifetime. How did you handle them? Did you buckle down and do what needed to be done, or did you cave under the pressure? If you can recall even one challenge that you were able to handle and overcome, you have solid footing to change your belief!
You simply need to keep convincing yourself that if you handled one challenge successfully, you can handle others. The more frequently and passionately you can reinforce this concept in your mind, the more quickly your underlying belief will change.
But what if you can’t recall any challenges you’ve overcome successfully in the past? Is it time to give up? Not yet! Instead, think about opportunities to tackle a challenge now. Pick one simple thing that would be challenging for you, and do it!
That may sound intimidating, but you may surprise yourself. Most often, we are capable of MUCH MORE than we give ourselves credit for. You won’t know until you try. After you handle even one small challenge, you will feel your confidence growing and you’ll be eager to take on more.
Remember that changing your beliefs is a process but if you keep at it, it won’t be long before you start to notice a big change in your attitude. And like so many other things in life, the more you practice the technique, the better you’ll get at it.
Part 4: A Laser Sharp Focus
Have you ever had trouble staying focused? A lack of focus can best be described as a state of confusion, uncertainty, and impotency. When you aren’t focused, you kind of drift aimlessly along, not really sure what you want to be doing, or how to do it even if you had a clue.
It’s easy to set goals and form plans. It’s easy to say we’re going to do something, but how many of us actually follow it through? FOCUS is necessary if you want to become more successful at anything in life. What do I mean by focus? I mean being able to stay on track with your goals and the action steps that will help you achieve them.
In order to stay focused, you will need to be consistent with 3 things:
1. Know where you are going
2. Know how to get there
3. Do whatever it takes to get there Now do you see the importance of knowing what you want and forming a solid plan? Without those first two steps, staying focused would be nearly impossible.
The two biggest threats to your ability to focus are: Distractions: All of us have distractions in our live. Whether they are external (other people, televisions, computer games, outside noises like sirens and traffic) or internal (negative thoughts, fear, confusion) – it is up to us to overcome them.
Distractions can be aggravating for sure, but they can also serve as a convenient excuse to stop trying. Do yourself a favor: be firm about minimising distractions as you work on your goals. You may need to wear earplugs to shut out excessive noise, or have a talk with your family members and ask them to support you in your goals.
You may need to decide to steadfastly ignore the critical voice in your head that utters messages of failure and doom. You may need to set a new schedule to allow yourself some quiet time each day. Do whatever is necessary to take charge of your own success. Choose to become immune to distractions as much as possible.
Remember, they become a problem ONLY if you allow them to take over. Lack of Commitment If you’re not fully committed to your goal, you will find it much more difficult to stay focused. You’ll be easily thrown off track by self-sabotage distractions and more. Without commitment, you simply won’t put forth your best effort!
Right now, before you read any further, make a promise to yourself that you will do whatever is necessary to reach your goals. Vow to courageously face any challenges, take bigger risks, and believe in your ability to succeed. Decide that no matter WHAT happens, you will keep moving forward, keep learning and growing and developing yourself as a person.
Vow that you will develop and hone a lazersharp focus that never deviates. With that type of attitude, you will become unstoppable!
Part 5: Patience to See it Through
In the modern age of instant gratification, it’s difficult to wait for something you want, isn’t it?
We’re used to moving at a fast pace and having our needs met immediately. Moving through a process of growth and development seems to take forever. We want to reach our goals NOW, not later. We don’t care how we’ll feel LATER, we care about how we feel NOW!
The important thing to understand about patience I that it’s all in your head. It’s only your perception of lack in this moment that keeps you feeling impatient! When you feel impatient about getting something you want, you are focusing on the condition of lacking what you want.
Lack is an uncomfortable feeling, so you feel a sense of urgency to eliminate it. You want to hurry and satisfy your need so the need will disappear. But it’s not the lack that actually makes you feel uncomfortable – it’s the belief that you need “something” to make you feel whole and complete and happy.
In this; case, achieving your goals and becoming successful will make you feel happy, so you naturally want it to happen immediately. Since it is virtually impossible to snap your fingers and change your circumstances just like that, here are some other suggestions for easing your sense of lack:
Set reasonable expectations: Your expectations can often get you in trouble by setting you up for disappointment. Even though you know it’s not likely that you’ll achieve your goals without investing some time and effort into the process, you still have a secret expectation that you’ll see results very quickly. When it doesn’t, you feel let down and angry. Don’t do that to yourself! Instead, lower your expectations a bit.
Rather than expecting overnight miracles, expect to keep making steady progress. Rather than expecting to transform yourself into a different person right away, expect to feel more and more confident each day.
If you pay more attention to the progress you’re making than the progress you’re NOT making, you’ll find yourself feeling much more positive and self-assured. Celebrate small victories: If you focus ONLY on the big goal at the finish line, you will miss out on many moments of joy and satisfaction between now and then.
Make a point of celebrating the small victories you achieve on a daily basis. Did you face a fear and take action anyway? Did you set aside time to work on your goals? Have you been working consistently on building a more positive outlook? Feel good about it!
Allow yourself to feel a sense of accomplishment about even the smallest forward strides. Enjoy the process: Imagine taking a trip around the world and keeping your eyes closed the entire time. What would you miss? What would be the point of taking a trip like that in the first place if you didn’t bother to take in the beauty around you? Yet, that’s exactly what many of us do when we take an inner journey.
We keep our eyes squarely on our destination and miss out on the journey itself. Instead, make an effort to enjoy the process of growth. Enjoy the sensation of growing more fully into the person you were meant to be. Enjoy every step you take and the final step of your journey will be that much sweeter.
Patience can serve you in many other ways too, but most importantly, it can make your journey to success much more enjoyable. It’s worth the effort, don’t you think?
Part 6: Inspiring Quotes to Help You Develop More Perseverance and Persistence
Permanence, perseverance and persistence in spite of all obstacles, discouragements and impossibilities: It is this, that in all things distinguishes the strong soul from the weak.
You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.
Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan Press On! has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.
Look at a stone cutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred-and-first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not the last blow that did it, but all that had gone before.
Jacob A. Riis
It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.
I will persist until I succeed. Always will I take another step. If that is of no avail I will take another, and yet another. In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult. I know that small attempts, repeated, will complete any undertaking.
Making your mark on the world is hard. If it were easy, everybody would do it. But it’s not. It takes patience, it takes commitment, and it comes with plenty of failure along the way. The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won’t. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.
When you get into a tight place, and everything goes against you till it seems as if you couldn’t hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that’s just the place and time that the tide’ll turn.
Harriet Beecher Stowe
A failure is not always a mistake. It may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying.
B. F. Skinner
Perseverance is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20th.
Courage and perseverance have a magical talisman, before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish into air.
John Quincy Adams
Let me tell you the secret that has led to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity.
Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.
You go on. You set one foot in front of the other, and if a thin voice cries out, somewhere behind you, you pretend not to hear, and keep going.
If your determination is fixed, I do not counsel you to despair. Few things are impossible to diligence and skill. Great works are performed not by strength, but perseverance.
Champions keep playing until they get it right.
Billie Jean King
Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.
If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Perseverance is a great element of success. If you only knock long enough and loud enough at the gate, you are sure to wake up somebody.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
If you are going through hell, keep going.
When you have a great and difficult task, something perhaps almost impossible, if you only work a little at a time, every day a little, suddenly the work will finish itself.
The real glory is being knocked to your knees and then coming back. That’s real glory. That’s the essence of it.
Success is the child of drudgery and perseverance. It cannot be coaxed or bribed; pay the price and it is yours.
Orison Swett Marden
Courage doesn’t always roar, sometimes it’s the quiet voice at the end of the day whispering I will try again tomorrow.
Mary Anne Radmacher
You aren’t going to find anybody that’s going to be successful without making a sacrifice and without perseverance.
A river cuts through rock, not because of its power, but because of its persistence.
It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.
There are two ways of attaining an important end, force and perseverance; the silent power of the latter grows irresistible with time.
I do not think that there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.
John D. Rockefeller
To succeed, you must have tremendous perseverance, tremendous will. “I will drink the ocean,” says the persevering soul; “at my will mountains will crumble up.” Have that sort of energy, that sort of will; work hard, and you will reach the goal.
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